Anniversary Letter
Scott,
My heart is just breaking today. Today would have been our 14th
wedding anniversary. We should have been
planning a celebration. Instead I’m
visiting your grave. While I am beyond
grateful for the thirteen years that we had, today I’m struggling with the
unfairness of it all. It feels like our
lives are not complete without you. We
were supposed to grow old together and spoil our grandchildren together. You were supposed to be here to chase all the
wrong guys away from Jaelyn and walk her down the aisle when that right guy
comes along. Your life ended way too
soon and while I know I will see you again one day – that day feels like an
eternity away.
There are so many little things that bring you to mind, a
smile to my face, and tears to my eyes every day. We are learning to move forward without you,
but there are days that I don’t want to move forward. It hurts to move forward without you.
It breaks my heart to see Jaelyn craving the male attention
that she got from you. I am so proud of
the husband and father you were to Jaelyn and me. No one can every fill that spot in our hearts
where we hold you and our memories close.
I know that you would be so proud of the amazing young woman
Jaelyn is continuing to become – her generous compassionate heart, her
spiritual growth, and the strength and grace with which she is handling your
loss. She still speaks of you in present
tense, for you are not really gone, you are simply in heaven. I have learned so much in this grief journey
from Jaelyn, the simplicity of her faith, and her eternal life view.
Our lives have changed so much since your death and we are
moving forward. I am grateful and
thankful for your future planning that is taking care of us now. Sitting here, looking back over our years
together, there are so many things I wish I had done differently. I wish I had shown my love, affection, and
thankfulness for you so much more than I did.
I wish I had spent more time having fun with you and less time worrying
about the things that “needed” to be done.
You truly were my best friend and sole mate, even though I didn’t do a
great job of communicating that with you.
I love you and I miss you so much. I would give everything up in a heartbeat to turn
back time and have you by my side. That
isn’t possible and I know that you are in a better place. My heart breaks for the loss to Jaelyn and I,
our families, and our friends. You were
very much loved by everyone. Thirteen
years was not enough time with you.
I remember all the fun times we had – and we had a lot. I remember all the unplanned “detours” that
occurred almost every time we planned something. Living with you taught me to go with the flow
and not sweat the small things. This has
helped me to take things in stride and face your loss. I have been able to take things one day at a
time and to simply shrug my shoulders over the uncontrollable “detours.” You were always my biggest supporter and
encourager. You always believed that I
could do anything I wanted to do. You
were not perfect and neither am I. That is
what made our life together so interesting.
Jaelyn talks about you all the time; memories, things you
taught her, and reminiscing about your way of doing things or thinking about
things. She still gets her slushies,
although not once or twice a day like you did with her. You may not be with us physically, but you
are with us daily in our thoughts, memories, and hearts. We love you so much!
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